Monday, October 22, 2012


Working at a frenzied pace, I spent a good chunk of early morning today to prepare slides for a talk. The skeletal form of the presentation had been prepared a few weeks back. I looked like a straight forward task of beefing up the slides. What I had not anticipated was the amount of revision, rereading, and reorganising that I had to do. it was emotional intelligence, a topic that I had neglected for a few years now.

I also had not anticipated to experience 'flow'; a sort of peak experience in preparing the slides. the task was very much enjoyable that I willingly tweaked the slides here and there, fully aware that the clock's short hand had moved east of 12. It seems that the tweaking gave much satisfaction, perhaps giving a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence. i fully look forward to the 2 hour talk.

The talk was originally scheduled early this month. then it was moved to a date a week later. Then the date moved again; this time it was Tuesday this week. In the day, I checked an email to get the phone number of the organiser for confirmation of the date. As I went through the email, I noticed that the date given was another new date: 2nd November. Upon checking verbally, it was confirmed that the talked was moved to next month. Part of me was saying I'd expanded my energy in a short burst unnecessarily. But another part of me was glad that I'd managed to prepare the materials fully 10 days ahead of the talk. Alhamdulillah.

Apparently, the energy to work on the presentation did not abated. I had, in fact, made a few more tweaks to the slides while in the hospital, waiting to see the O&G specialist. Later at night, I revisited a blog that I put in my browser's bookmark. I rediscovered a good example of his writing. For me, it is about redirecting a negative emotion to a more positive and productive purposes :

See....! When you enjoy your work, you will be able to see and use opportunities to make your job more meaningful.

Laksa johor

Semenjak dua menjak ni, asik makan je kerjanya. Tak tau basa kenyang. Nak ngunyap je.

Sapa nak join ayah makan? Kalau baby dah ready, boleh join ayah makan. Nak laksa johor tak? Ayah buat kuah ikan tenggiri. Jom. Bila dah ready, keluar elok-elok ya. May Allah make it easy for you to join us in this dun'ya.

Friday, October 19, 2012


Tuhan sedang mencabar sikapmu. Periksa semula prasangka, prejudis dan stereotaip dalam minda. Bila minda dibuka semula, lihatlah kebarangkalian baru yang muncul. Mungkin manis menanti.

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

One night

A cool crisp night, reminded me how much i have traveled
how white hairs are invading my scalp 
and how lucky I am the scalp are still covered with hairs

Admitting to myself that I've been travelling a lot
i can convince my legs not to rush
try to be more content in the night
to let the sun rise on its own accord. 

the aroma of yesteryear fluttered amongst the trees
while soft dew of nostalgia moisturized the trenches on my palm
and the bitterness of sins blackened the tip of my tongue

Learn to walk slower
delaying remorseful scheming
and accumulating strength to jump higher than yesterday

how i'm thankful
to have 
a sweet crisp cool night.

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

business presentation

I'm on cloud nine - another natural high for me.

Just came back from doing a presentation to a group of HR people at a private company. The presentation was on  proposed training programmes. At the end of the presentation, they basically had agreed to take me on as their training provider. Alhamdulillah. Hopefully the dates will be fixed soon. So glad to be able to get involved in the corporate world. Rasa macam orang korporat dalam drama tv je. Hahahah.

9th IPRC

Alhamdulillah, the colloquium had been organised. In total, there were 2 keynote addresses and 30 paper presentations. A number of authors had promised to come, but were not able to attend. nevertheless, the 'core' participants were there, and I can't be happier to hear them enjoying themselves at IIUM, especially during the farewell dinner.

The preparation had been long, winding, and at times a test of patience. Managing the paper submission is a skill that should be certified. I think Karimi and I deserve to reward ourselves with a certificate of EasyChair + manual submission.

The MOU is a completely different matter. The transits that the documents had taken were beyond my telescope. But it was signed at a ceremony at the Department. Nothing fancy, no hoopla. It was a ceremony with minimal frills. What matters is that the collaboration between the Department and BSRI is 9 years strong. And we look forward to further collaboration.

The gist of it

Open mind.
'I matter'.
Natural high!

9th IPRC 2012

Below is my welcoming speech at the 9th IPRC 2012. 

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Good morning to all.

The highest of praise and thanks are due to Allah SWT. He had made this gathering possible, and may He shower the gathering with His blessings and mercy. Selawat and salam to the prophet Muhammad SAW, his companions and his family.

The theme of the 9th IPRC is "Leading a Balanced Life". For muslims, prophet Muhammad SAW is the best example for finding balance in life. He has shown in his attitude and his actions the way to find a balance in life; between the material and spiritual, between the personal and social life, and between the present life and the life hereafter. Many of his wisdoms had been recorded and practiced by both muslims and non-muslims. One particular advice from him concerns self-improvement. It was reported that he said, “In a believer’s life, today must be better than yesterday, and tomorrow has to be better than today.” While his advice is targeted at the personal level, we can apply it to institutions and organisations as well. As an academic institution, IIUM, and many other universities and colleges exist to seek improvement. Taking the spirit of his advice, I’d like to remarks on IPRC, as an event and an institution, on its past, present, and future.

This year marks the 9th edition of the IPRC. The Department has organised the colloquium 4 times, including the one in 2010 where it was not known as IRPC for technical reasons. The fact is, the IPRC is now 10 years strong. It is now part of the tradition of the Department of Psychology and BSRI. And this is something that both institutions can be proud of. Last year, upon my return to the Department from the 8th IPRC in Bangkok, I was given the challenge to be the Chairperson of the organising committee for the 9th IPRC. The main remark by the staff from the Department was the gracious hospitality of the colleagues and students of BSRI. We were impressed and humbled by their efforts, warm reception, and tireless hard work in making the guest at the colloquium comfortable. We hope our own brand of hospitality is not too far off the BSRI standards.

For this edition of IPRC, we try to make improvements. On the technical side, we’ve introduced the use of EasyChair, a web-based conference management application. Although not all participants submitted their papers through EasyChair, it was a good learning experience for those involved. For future IPRC, the use of applications such as EasyChair is highly recommended. It can reduce the amount of time spent of managing the abstracts and papers, and also communication with the participants.

Another deliberate decision taken by the organising committee was to use Conference Alerts website to promote the colloquium.  I believe, this have led to expansion of the participation. Last year, there were participants from Sri Lanka and Pakistan. This year, on top of delegates from BSRI and the Department of Psychology IIUM, we are honoured to welcome delegates from the Philippines, Iran, Nigeria, as well as participants from other universities in Malaysia like UiTM, UKM, UM, UUM, and UTM. Welcome to IIUM, the Garden of Knowledge and Virtue. Welcome to the 9th IPRC 2012. Yindi ton-rab kau su IIUM.

For the future, more improvements can be made by the organising committees. Hopefully, the MOU between the Department and BSRI, which is due to be signed soon, will spur further collaborations among the two institutions. Perhaps other activities covered by the MOU can be attached to the Colloquium to make it into richer activity, spanning a wide range of scholarly, social, and intellectual dimensions.

I’d like to record heartfelt appreciation to all those involved in organising this IPRC. First, to all delegates who’ve chosen to participate in this colloquium, I thank you for joining us. I hope you will have a productive and beneficial time with us. Second, I thank the sponsors who have helped greatly in running the colloquium. Fortunately, the number of sponsors is not a long list, so I can say all of them here: International Links and Community relations Division of IIUM, U&C Book Distributors, and the Kulliyyah of Islamic Revealed Knowledge of IIUM. Third, a big thanks is due to the management of IIUM for kindly supporting the Colloquium for yet another time. Fourth, to all students and staff directly involved in organising this colloquium, I’d say syukran jazilan. I know they have worked hard to make this event a success. For some of them, this is a learning experience. For any shortfall in their performance, I’d like to apologise on their behalf. Thank you to the students for their willingness to work and learn. May Allah reward them handsomely. Fifth, and last, to all others that I’ve not mentioned yet, whether you have been involved directly or indirectly, through your efforts, du’a and moral support, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Wabillahit tawfiq wal hidayah, wassalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

9th IPRC 2012

Below is the speech read by Dr Wahabuddin Ra'es who represented the Dean of KIRKHS in the opening ceremony of 9th IPRC.

I am pleased to be part of the colloquium this year. It has been an annual event between the Department of Psychology and the Behavioral Science Research Institute. The colloquium can be regarded as a tradition, judging by the consistency of its occurrence. In fact, being consistent in doing good deeds is a noble characteristic to have. In Islam, the concept of Istiqamah, where a person consistently performs a good deed, even a small one, is highly recommended. This is one of the manifestations of leading a balanced life. We strive to do good, perhaps small efforts here and there, but maintain the energy for doing so. That is better than going all out to do a big thing, and getting totally exhausted at the end that we cannot find more energy to do it again.

Ladies and gentlemen,

The University, and the Kulliyyah in particular, strongly support academic activities such as this colloquium. We are keen on developing mutually beneficial relationship with other institutions around the world. This is evident in the Memorandum of Understanding that had been signed between IIUM and other Universities. With the diverse participation in this colloquium, the oportunity should be taken to discuss future collaborations. On top of learning and sharing of research works, as listed in the schedule of presentation, we can also try to identify mutual areas of interest that can be the basis for working together. As an international university, IIUM aims to be a global player for education, and community enrichment.

The colloquium is built on small efforts throughout the year. It has come to a point where the efforts lead to the gathering of scholars, young scholars, and budding scholars at this IIUM Campus. It is with great pleasure that I welcome all delegates to the Colloquium. The Kulliyyah, and the University is proud to be host to guests from different parts of the world. You have come to the University at the same time we’re having a convocation. There are many activities going on around campus to celebrate the success of students who have completed their study here. I encourage you to take part in the celebration, and share the joy and happiness that are available in abundance in our campus.

For the organisers, today is the culmination of your hard work to ensuring this colloquium a success. I congratulate and thank you on your efforts. I hope the involvement in the colloquium has, and will be, rewarding for you. The postgraduate students, especially, would have learned soft skills that may not necessarily be learned in the class room. The colloquium had offered you additional learning opportunities. I hope other postgraduate students from the Department will be involved in future colloquium.

I would also like to thank the organiser for inviting me to be part of this opening ceremony. May all of you get the benefits that you expect from the colloqium. It is a pleasure for me to now complete the task given to me, which is to officiate the opening of the colloquium. By the name of Allah SWT, I officially open the 9th International Postgraduate Research Colloquium 2012.
Thank you very much.
Wassalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

sambung puisi

aku ingin bersembang dengan seseorang
yang ramahnya bersulam sayang
lalu hatiku diam dan tenang

(pangkal puisi ini ada di sini)

Monday, October 01, 2012

bersusah-susah dahulu

Dah selesa bersenang-senang, kadang-kadang kita jadi sombong untuk bersusah-susah.

Ini bukan cerita si Tanggang. si Tanggang itu menjadi sombong disebabkan kesenangan.

Ini tentang orang yang tidak mahu bersusah-susah menolong orang lain sebab dia dah senang. Mungkin sebab dah selalu berSK II, berLancome atau berKiehls, maka gelilah dia nak menepekkan bedak sejuk di muka orang lain. Ataupun, dek tiap-tiap hari naik kereta mewah, langsung tak nak membonceng kapcai kawan yang minta tolong angkut barangnya.

Sesekali kena juga menurunkan 'darjat'. Hatta berlampin sutera waktu kecil dulu, kena sesekali rasa kasarnya belacu. apatah lagi jika membabitkan orang lain. Mungkin orang lain belum sampai tahap senang yang kita kecapi. Turunkanlah diri ke tahap kesusahan mereka. Mudah-mudahan kita jadi lebih bersyukur dengan nikmat yang dikecapi sekarang. mudah-mudahan ada 'saham' kita dalam membantu mereka menjadi lebih senang.