be my imam

It is nice to read that women are demanding their future husband to be able to be their imam. I hope the women are ready to be the ma'mum, and don't make that demand only to deflect the expectation that they have the ability of a chef. For example, be ready to spend according to your imam's capacity: don't let your nafs guide your spending habit. Otherwise, find an imam with deeper pockets.

lose-lose scenario: 

men don't want to be an imam, women don't want to be chef.

win-win scenario: 

men learn to be a good imam, women learn to be a good chef.

Imam has to work harder to convince their ma'mum to spend less, instead of working harder to deepen their pockets

Lagi besar periuk, lagi banyak keraknya.

Peringatan daripada Allah (surah at-takaathur, ayat 1&2): "Kamu telah dilalaikan (daripada mengerjakan amal bakti) oleh perbuatan berlumba-lumba untuk mendapat dengan sebanyak-banyaknya (harta benda, anak-pinak pangkat dan pengaruh), Sehingga kamu masuk kubur."