Erti Kasih
Erti kasih
erti memberi kesayangan bagiku
erti sayang
oh ertinya bermanja-manja denganmu
erti manja
itulah ertinya bercinta nan suci
erti cinta
engkau kan bersamaku
semoga kekal abadi
(Bersamamu, Adam Ahmad)
Adam Ahmad is under-rated in Malaysian music industry. He produced quality songs, and touches people in his own unique way. His most famous song would be Janji Manismu (sung by Aishah) and Kau Pergi Jua. Another song that he wrote and sing is Bersamamu. It is poignant. It tugs at my heart in its simplicity. At his hand, and voice, the cliché words sounds fresh. Let me add a personal reflection on this lyric.
No doubt, love is an important ingredient of a healthy relationship. But what is love? I have, for a long time now, feel that if you love someone, let them be free. If they come back to you, then you know they are meant to be. Love is not about possession. You need to learn to let go. Sacrifice is a part of love.
Why would you sacrifice for the one that you love? There are many reasons. A selfless love, or an unconditional love, means that you love that person enough to do anything for him or her. You’re willing to give. As Ustaz Hasrizal says, erti hidup pada memberi. You’re also willing to withhold your judgement to simply accept him or her. What’s important is to know why you’d make the sacrifices.
The efforts to make the sacrifices are proportional to the motivation behind the sacrifices. The bigger the motivation, the larger the efforts and sacrifices. As a friend advised, there need to be a strong basis for a relationship. For me, this ‘strong basis’ is also the basis for the sacrifices. Love is about accepting and respecting this foundation.
When you accept someone, you have to accept their ‘core’ personality: their principles, aspiration, attitudes, and values. It may take sometime. But, the search is well worth it. If you can’t articulate what’s important to you, you can’t expect people to respect them. And, more important, people won’t know where you are heading. Ke dermaga mana kau ingin berlabuh? When the visions are shared, a mutual understanding is achieved, and you’ll have a solid foundation for a relationship.
If you’re comfortable with that, you have to live with it. There will be conflicts along the way. But, as long as this conflicts are peripheral to the core, you’re willing to make these ‘small’ sacrifices. You’d tolerate their messy eating habit, forgetfulness, or other small defects. You love them for their essence, not for appearance.
Of course, the strongest motivation of all is iman. Love that is based on a strong akidah and iman is the strongest and most pure. How else can you explain Ibrahim a.s. leaving his wife and son in the desert? His love for Allah convinced him that it was the best thing for his family. When you love someone because of Allah, you don’t look at personal defects. You don’t judge them. The basis of judging would be the Quran and Sunnah. You love and hate in accordance with these teachings.
Love is about accepting and respecting a common ground and making sacrifices to preserve its integrity.
erti memberi kesayangan bagiku
erti sayang
oh ertinya bermanja-manja denganmu
erti manja
itulah ertinya bercinta nan suci
erti cinta
engkau kan bersamaku
semoga kekal abadi
(Bersamamu, Adam Ahmad)
Adam Ahmad is under-rated in Malaysian music industry. He produced quality songs, and touches people in his own unique way. His most famous song would be Janji Manismu (sung by Aishah) and Kau Pergi Jua. Another song that he wrote and sing is Bersamamu. It is poignant. It tugs at my heart in its simplicity. At his hand, and voice, the cliché words sounds fresh. Let me add a personal reflection on this lyric.
No doubt, love is an important ingredient of a healthy relationship. But what is love? I have, for a long time now, feel that if you love someone, let them be free. If they come back to you, then you know they are meant to be. Love is not about possession. You need to learn to let go. Sacrifice is a part of love.
Why would you sacrifice for the one that you love? There are many reasons. A selfless love, or an unconditional love, means that you love that person enough to do anything for him or her. You’re willing to give. As Ustaz Hasrizal says, erti hidup pada memberi. You’re also willing to withhold your judgement to simply accept him or her. What’s important is to know why you’d make the sacrifices.
The efforts to make the sacrifices are proportional to the motivation behind the sacrifices. The bigger the motivation, the larger the efforts and sacrifices. As a friend advised, there need to be a strong basis for a relationship. For me, this ‘strong basis’ is also the basis for the sacrifices. Love is about accepting and respecting this foundation.
When you accept someone, you have to accept their ‘core’ personality: their principles, aspiration, attitudes, and values. It may take sometime. But, the search is well worth it. If you can’t articulate what’s important to you, you can’t expect people to respect them. And, more important, people won’t know where you are heading. Ke dermaga mana kau ingin berlabuh? When the visions are shared, a mutual understanding is achieved, and you’ll have a solid foundation for a relationship.
If you’re comfortable with that, you have to live with it. There will be conflicts along the way. But, as long as this conflicts are peripheral to the core, you’re willing to make these ‘small’ sacrifices. You’d tolerate their messy eating habit, forgetfulness, or other small defects. You love them for their essence, not for appearance.
Of course, the strongest motivation of all is iman. Love that is based on a strong akidah and iman is the strongest and most pure. How else can you explain Ibrahim a.s. leaving his wife and son in the desert? His love for Allah convinced him that it was the best thing for his family. When you love someone because of Allah, you don’t look at personal defects. You don’t judge them. The basis of judging would be the Quran and Sunnah. You love and hate in accordance with these teachings.
Love is about accepting and respecting a common ground and making sacrifices to preserve its integrity.
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